Frequently Asked Questions
Can a funeral take any form I like?
Yes, there are no legal requirements about the form of the ceremony. Most people choose to include favourite music, readings or poetry that are particularly meaningful, and details and anecdotes about the person who has died. Some make use of pictures or special objects of significance. If you would like it, I can offer suggestions.
Does the ceremony have to be held in a place of worship or a crematorium?
No, the ceremony can take place in your home or anywhere you choose, with the owner's permission. A crematorium is the most convenient place for many, but some people choose not to be restricted by the time constraints of such places.
Grandchildren want to play music and a friend wants to give the eulogy. Is that OK with you?
Absolutely! You can decide exactly what you would like to be my role in the ceremony. Sometimes people can be surprised by their emotions on the day, so if someone feels unable to go through with a reading, I can be ready to step in at a pre-arranged sign. When we know about the contributions of others, you may want me to suggest where they might best be placed, or to introduce them, but the choice is yours.
I would like some religious content. Must I use a minister?
No, unless you want a full religious service, a faith minister may not be the most appropriate choice. You may choose to write and deliver the ceremony yourself, but even if you are used to presentations and feel prepared, emotions can be powerful and unpredictable. I can write ceremonies with or without spiritual content. We could include a hymn, a prayer or a religious reading.
What are your charges?
I charge £220 for my services. This includes interment or scattering of ashes at a later date, if required. I make an extra charge for travel beyond a 25 mile radius. Generally your funeral director will pay me and itemise the cost on your bill.
Covid-19 might mean that traditional funerals cannot take place for a while. If I write but do not deliver a funeral, or write a tribute only, reductions will apply.
What is the connection between you and the funeral director?
I am responsible only for the ceremony, whereas the funeral director takes care of the legalities, and your loved one up until the final farewell. I liaise very closely with the funeral director to ensure that any decisions you make about the order of service, music and readings are known by all the relevant people.
How do I know you will do a good job?
I have passed the National Qualification - NOCN level 3 Diploma in Funeral Celebrancy (QCF) which is the highest qualification in funeral celebrancy in the UK. I trained with Civil Ceremonies Ltd who will be pleased to provide a reference for me. Please contact them on 01480 276080.
I am a member of the Institute of Civil Funerals, which exists to support members and uphold standards of civil funerals. My work is assessed regularly and I have public liability insurance.